Christian dating and boundaries
If we’re thinking ‘how far can I go before crossing the line? Sexual sin does not just exist within our bodies, but also in our minds.Scripture doesn’t just tell us not to ‘approach’ the line, but to turn and flee from it.To give another your whole heart too early is both unsafe to you and unfair to them. (Be worried if people start giving you couple combo-names like “Brannifer” or “Joeronica.”) (4) Sexual boundaries promote independence, health, and clarity.Timeliness is as important as integrity in a relationship (Prov. To respect timeliness in what you allow yourself to feel and how you express it does not devalue your emotions through suppression. Yet we often talk about sexual purity as putting our hearts in a cage only to be unlocked in on the wedding day.Rather, good timing honors the sanctity of romantic emotions and their rightful end (Song of Solomon 8:4). I fear what that view of sexuality would look like in marriage.Romantic feeling mixed with relational health is God's desired context to make a dating couple a married one. To retain space for yourself spiritually—that is, individual relationships with God and the church that do not depend on your romantic other—protects your heart. Conversely, we seek to cultivate sexual purity that reflects the holistic love of Christ for his sake (Psalm ; Proverbs ; 1 Peter ).I was dressed as Audrey Hepburn and he was dressed as the Energizer bunny (when I say dressed, I mean he had two batteries taped to his back).He tried to hold my hand that night, I got freaked out because no one had ever made a move on me before and then we went our separate ways.
(1) Personal boundaries promote individual independence. They protect a person's agency, space, friend/family/God relationships, and academic/professional contexts as their own—that is, free from invasiveness of their romantic other. There are several ways to exercise emotional wisdom with feelings.Practically speaking, dating relationships should be invited and wanted, not pressured or coerced. We can taper how much we express; it's best to not always say everything we feel.Dependence or co-dependence cede that which God has granted to every person in his image by divine right (Matt. It is wrong for a person to have a kind of control in a romantic context that God does not call any person to give to another (see 2 Sam. We never owe anyone a specific emotion or a particular amount of it. You are each your own person walking with God and neighbor, and you undercut your ability to give love in a safe and stable way as soon as you become anything less.After all, what is the purpose of dating and relationships?The Bible says that relationships can help us show the love of God to other people.