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I eventually realized that my role in anti-oppression meant not only talking about my hardships, but also constant reflection on and re-assessing of (as well as—yes—fucking of up because of) my privilege.If I was to claim that I was committed to making spaces safer and liberation for , I had to take a closer look at myself, my privilege, and my assumptions.He takes accusations that have "some truth" and fires them at you "in all honesty," "just being your friend," "to help you out." The difference between an invalidator and a real friend is that a real friend will tell you one negative thing about yourself and then back off to give you space to consider it. She may make you look silly for even thinking such things about her. In short, the invalidator does whatever is necessary to control you.An invalidator will lay many of your faults out for you and persist until you feel as big as the period at the end of this sentence. She may make you feel guilty or cheap in front of your friends for accusing her of invalidating you. Whatever she can do to invalidate you further, she will. He is control-crazy, and any time he perceives himself to be not in control, he will be scared.
At this stage of my life, I had a firm grasp and understanding about how I was a minority in multiple spaces.Yet, the fulfillment of this desire happens all too infrequently. If you have a mental illness, feelings of isolation and anguish can be your frequent companions—I know this from personal experience, as I had untreated OCD for several decades, and even though I’m much, much better, I will always have OCD and the on and off bouts of depression that can accompany it.When a friend sent me this video a few years ago, I had an Aha! But by trying to silver lining (Brené’s new verb) someone else’s pain completely invalidates her experience.Isn’t empathy just going to make the receiver wallow in their feelings more? My neighbor down the street has cancer, and my struggle is nothing compared with hers.” It’s a no win situation to compare our own struggles with those of another.Either we are doing better than they are, which engenders pity or sympathy for the other person, or we are doing worse, which creates self-pity, and empathy springs from neither.